Ep 35 Regulating Emotion In The Face Of Gaslighting: Wives Of Alcoholics Guide

Wife On The Rocks I Gaslighting, Addiction, Codependency, Al Anon, Alcoholism, Recovery

When gaslighting leaves you questioning your reality and your worth, it’s easy to spiral into anger, defensiveness, or despair. As wives, we long for our husbands to meet our emotional needs, but the truth is—no spouse can carry that weight fully. And when addiction and gaslighting are present, the gap feels even bigger than we ever imagined.

In this episode, I share how I’ve learned to regulate my emotions in the face of hurtful, confusing words. You’ll hear:

• Why it’s dangerous to seek validation from a spouse who cannot give it.

• Practical ways to counteract gaslighting without losing your peace.

• How knowing who I am in Christ steadies me when my marriage feels like less than I ever expected.

• Why Galatians 5:22 reminds me that the Holy Spirit equips me with self-control—even when I’m tempted to lash back in anger.

If you’ve ever thought, “I didn’t sign up for this—I expected so much more,” this episode will give you encouragement and practical tools to hold your ground in truth and respond with Spirit-led self-control.

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