022. Creating The Love You Deserve

Heal First Then Pick Your Life Partner: Help With Healing CPTSD

In this episode, I explore why so many trauma survivors find themselves in relationships that feel consuming, confusing, and hard to let go of — and what it truly takes to create the kind of love that feels safe, steady, and real.

If you have ever felt trapped in the push and pull of connection and disconnection, this conversation will help you understand why that dynamic feels so familiar. I unpack how early trauma wires your system for hypervigilance to others, how that survival strategy can turn romantic love into emotional chaos, and what it looks like to begin repairing your internal attachment system so that love no longer feels like survival.

You will learn how to shift from seeking love that soothes or saves to building love that elevates and enhances, and how restoring secure internal attachment is a core part of effective CPTSD Resolution.

In this episode you'll learn: ✦ Why familiar relational chaos often repeats across partners and friendships ✦ How hypervigilance and people-pleasing develop as survival strategies ✦ Why romantic partners can't "complete" old attachment wounds ✦ The essential shift from seeking love that saves to cultivating love that enhances ✦ The foundational step of CPTSD Resolution: restoring secure internal attachment with yourself

The love you deserve does not come from being chosen by someone else. It comes from knowing that you are already whole.

🗓 Join the CPTSD Resolution 101 Weekend Workshop December 19–21, live on Zoom. Step out of the waiting room and into the classroom to learn the exact framework Dr. Wallace uses to help students resolve CPTSD at the root. You'll leave with a personalized plan for your CPTSD Resolution, new insight into how to leverage your existing supports more effectively, and renewed clarity about your healing path. → Save your seat at cptsdmedicine.com/weekendworkshop

About CPTSD Medicine CPTSD Medicine is a trauma-healing framework created by Dr. Tanner Wallace, PhD in Education, former Associate Professor of Applied Developmental Psychology, IFS Level 3 Practitioner, and survivor of complex trauma. It offers a research-based, spiritually integrated, non-pharmaceutical pathway for complete CPTSD Resolution.

Through a suite of training experiences—including Happily Ever After, the CPTSD Medicine Starter Kit, the CPTSD Resolution 101 Weekend Workshop, and Free AF (Self Energies Series), Dr. Wallace teaches high-achieving adults how to resolve Complex PTSD at the root. Students learn to regulate their emotions, release stored trauma energies, and build secure internal attachment so that love and life finally feel safe.

The CPTSD Medicine approach unites Internal Family Systems, developmental psychology, ancestral wisdom, Human Design, the Gene Keys, and nervous-system science to move participants from possession by trauma energies to sovereignty fueled by Self Energy.