Nobody Likes A Martyr- The Problems Of Over-giving For Women

Confessions Of A High Strung Woman With Abbi Walker

Do you ever feel like no matter how hard you try, how much you give- it never seems to be enough in your relationships? SAME girl. SAME.

I spent my whole life giving and giving and then giving some more- I was going to find a way to make others happy- to be loved, to be safe, so that then maybe, just maybe- I could get to be happy too?

But it was never enough.

This then begs the question- "enough" for what?

What are we trying to earn, prove, or make happen by giving so much?

Women everywhere- allow me to introduce you to the topic that currently has my head exploding- THE PROBLEMS OF OVERGIVING.

After a rough couple of weeks, I found myself googling "why do I feel so responsible for everything and everyone" and I discovered this article by Natalie Lue yesterday morning that blew.my.mind.
I have over-given my entire life- as it was highly esteemed in my culture and household. You give and you give until you suffer mentally, emotionally, and physically- and the only way we can seem to make it okay is to think of ourselves as some kind of noble martyr. Dying a thousand deaths so the ones we love don't have to suffer, be uncomfortable, or carry their own weight.

But the problem is- no one likes a martyr. No one likes to be one and no one likes to be around one- much less "loved" by one.
This is brave- but it's about to get real good.

Episode Referenced:

Natalie Lue: Baggage Reclaim Podcast