Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) was created by a woman named Marsha Linehan in the 1980s. The skills she created are now taught all over the world. DBT can improve depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, and other mental health struggles. We are Kate and Michelle, two mental health therapists in Seattle, WA. We have been teaching DBT groups as a team for years. Whether you've never heard of DBT before or are experienced with DBT skills, this podcast is here to help you use D ...
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Join Michelle Henderson and Kate Sherman as they discuss mental health topics from the perspective of being clients in therapy themselves and as therapists working with their own clients. Join the facebook group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about managing emotional reactivity when blindsided by big events, how to become more assertive, communicating feelings of disappointment to others, and feelings of overwhelm when talking about trauma. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: h…
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DBT and Finding Joy
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RELEASE DATE: July 31, 2024 Kate and Michelle discuss how to be mindful of joyful experiences when they are occurring using mindfulness along with discussing three other skills that may lead to joyful experiences happening more often in your life. If you live in Washington state and want to start therapy with Michelle, you can find more information…
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DBT & Me Podcast: Meet our new team member, Meg!
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Kate interviews Meg, our newest team member. Meg is our virtual assistant and podcast editor (since April). To learn more about DBT with Friends: https://www.instagram.com/dbtwithfriends To learn more about Therahive, check out their website here: https://www.therahive.com. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support g…
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Episode Release Date: June 17, 2024 Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about waking up feeling angry, how to celebrate a successful use of skills, coping with difficult medical procedures, and managing conflict in a romantic relationship after moving. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can …
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about supporting a friend in an unhealthy relationship, the negative impacts of medication changes, remembering to use skills when in crisis, and helpful episodes when trying to rebuild yourself after grief. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed in this episode. Support the Show. I…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about whether or not to postpone processing emotions, how frequently to use distress tolerance skills, understanding the concept of "everyone is doing the best they can", and coping with willful people. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: …
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about what to do if a therapist breaches your confidentiality, reaching out to your therapist in between sessions, managing the impulse to talk "too much" and handling jealousy in a polyamorous relationship. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up h…
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DBT and Perinatal Mental Health with Whitney Frost
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Kate and Michelle are joined by Whitney Frost to talk about how DBT can be helpful in maintaining mental health while transitioning to parenthood, from trying to conceive all the way through the second year of parenthood. Whitney talks about what skills are most helpful to keep in mind and best practices for professionals when working with this pop…
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Making Friends in Adulthood: A Universal Struggle
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Kate and Michelle talk about the challenges and successes they've experienced with establishing friendships in adulthood. They discuss the reasons why adult friendships are difficult to start and maintain and provide tips for how you can start connecting with new people and making friends yourself. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebo…
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Mindfulness and Wise Mind from a Spiritual Perspective
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Kate and Michelle talk about practicing mindfulness and wise mind from a spiritual perspective. They discuss 4 key goals of mindfulness, 5 contemplative practices for accessing wise mind, elements of mystical experiences and their personal experiences with practicing mindfulness and wise mind spiritually. Support the Show. If you want to sign up fo…
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Recovering From Invalidation
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Kate and Michelle talk about reasons when invalidation can be helpful and painful. They also talk about 12 ways DBT can help with recovering from invalidation after it happens, sharing their personal experiences along the way. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbri…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about going beyond "studying" DBT, recovering after being taken advantage of, handling feelings of jealousy, and disagreeing with family members about different morals/values. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/…
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Kate and Michelle discuss DBT's biosocial theory and explain how our ability to regulate our emotions is impacted by our physiology and our social environment. If you want to learn more about the podcast Kate will be a guest on, you can check out their website: https://speakthescience.com/miss-behavior-journal-club-podcast/ Support the Show. If you…
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Father Relationships: The Men Who Impact Us The Most
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Kate and Michelle talk about each of their relationships with their fathers during childhood and adulthood. They both share how they have found close connections with their fathers, as well as sharing flaws and past incidents of hurt. They also share suggestions for men who are fathers and how to heal wounded father relationships as an adult. TRIGG…
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Creating a Life Worth Living
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Kate and Michelle discuss what it means to create a life worth living. They share how they are personally doing this as well as what they struggle with. They each share skills that can help you move closer to creating a life worth living for yourself. TRIGGER WARNING: Please note that material that may be triggering is discussed from 3:20-4:36, 27:…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about struggling with persistent depression, skills for self-hatred, online DBT groups, and how to effectively express disappointment. If you'd like to sign up for the free DBT peer support group through Kate's clinic, you can do so at this link: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-5…
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"DBT for Everyone": Learn all about our new book!
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Kate and Michelle's book, "DBT for Everyone: A Guide to the Perks, Pitfalls and Possibilities of DBT for Better Mental Health" is now released! They talk more in-depth about the structure of the book, plus they each read some favorite excerpts. Two lucky winners of free, signed copies are announced at the end! Support the Show. If you want to sign …
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Going Through the Holidays: Not Always Merry and Bright
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The holiday season is upon us! Kate and Michelle talk about each of their own childhood memories from the holidays, both positive and challenging. They share how they each celebrate holidays currently as adults. They also share suggestions that may help you during this time of year if you find yourself struggling to cope with stresses this time of …
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Want to win a free copy of our book? Listen to this!
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There's no October monthly episode today (lots has been going on in our lives!), but coming up in November we will be taking a deep dive into talking more about our BOOK! November 21st is the release date and we can't wait to share more about it with all of you. If you want to be entered to win a free copy, join our Patreon at the link below. The l…
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Staying in a Struggling Relationship: Fighting for Love When It's Hard
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Kate and Michelle share about their current struggles in their marriages and their reasons for deciding to stay with their husbands in spite of the challenges. They both share tips for how to seek support and adjust your thinking if you also find yourself in a struggling relationship that you want to continue. Support the Show. If you'd like to joi…
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DBT and Codependency
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Kate and Michelle discuss what codependency is (and isn't), how it relates to borderline personality disorder and which DBT skills may help reduce codependency in relationships with others. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about whether or not to move in with a partner who is not seeking mental health treatment, diving deeper into using DBT, struggling with cleaning, and how to keep using skills when your group is on a hiatus. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up h…
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How We've Been Using Skills
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Kate and Michelle each talk about three recent life events they've experienced over the past month that led to them using DBT skills personally. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 34:20-41:17. If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching and lea…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about coping after you've set boundaries with someone, struggling with children who are refusing to go to school, the difference between GIVE and DEAR MAN, and talking to an adult child about doing DBT in an in-patient setting. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support grou…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about coping with loneliness after a breakup, whether or not to do DBT in a group and/or individually, skills for de-personalization and de-realization, and using check the facts with medical conditions. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here:…
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Coercive Control with Sarah Kardelen: Breaking Free from Relationship Imprisonment
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Kate and Michelle are joined by special guest Sarah Kardelen to talk about coercive control in romantic relationships. Coercive control is a specific type of intimate partner violence defined as "a pattern of controlling behaviors that create an unequal power dynamic in a relationship." Sarah and Kate share their stories followed by Sarah, Kate and…
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Being a Borderline Doctor with Carly Krespan
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Kate and Michelle are joined by special guest Carly Krespan to talk about her experiences of going through medical school and becoming a mental health provider while also having a personal diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder. Carly shares her story and talks about experiencing unfair treatment due to her mental health history. She also pro…
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7 Key Principles of DBT/Skills Training Assumptions
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Kate and Michelle discuss what DBT calls "skills training assumptions" and provide their thoughts on these seven key principles of dialectical thinking. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 21:14-21:42. If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launching…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about starting DBT groups, skills to use for various forms of grief, worrying about becoming a mom with a BPD diagnosis, and goals for parent/child relationships. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discuss…
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Calling all mental health professionals! We need your help!
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We've been leading coffee hour groups for a couple months and we would love it if you're open to taking 5-10 minutes of your time to answer a few quick questions for us so we can make this offering the best it can be! Here's the link to the survey questions: https://forms.gle/RjyC9zXmY34tWGzg9 If you want to sign up for our July coffee hour, you ca…
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Alternate Rebellion
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Kate and Michelle discuss a distress tolerance skill used for addictive behaviors called alternate rebellion. They give personal examples from their lives to demonstrate ways this skill can be applied to situations outside of addictions and offer their own tips for how to implement it in your life. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering i…
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ADHD with Ashley Wilkinson: Overcoming Challenges and Finding Benefits
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Kate and Michelle are joined by Ashley Wilkinson as she and Kate discuss their experiences living with ADHD. They both talk about how it felt to be diagnosed with ADHD in adulthood and open up about how ADHD impacts their daily lives. Strategies are shared for how to help manage ADHD while also having compassion for yourself. Support the Show. If y…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about struggling with a friend's unhealthy romantic relationship, "falling out of love" with DBT, using mindfulness when you feel like you're losing control, and changing sleep habits. TRIGGER WARNING: Please note material that may be triggering is discussed from 1:43-2:15. Support the Show. If you want t…
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Self-Soothing Kits
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Kate and Michelle talk about how to make self-soothing kits by sharing their own personal experiences with making their own kits, when to use self-soothing, and suggestions to make sure you avoid common pitfalls when trying this out. If you're a mental health professional/student and want to join us to learn more about our insider tips for launchin…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about coping with the aftermath of being "split" on by a friend, free/low-cost DBT resources, managing anger and relapsing with self- harm. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 36:30-1:02:55. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you…
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Conflict Avoidance with Jason Wilkinson: Overcoming Fears to Find Connection
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Michelle is joined by Jason Wilkinson to talk about conflict avoidance in romantic relationships. Michelle and Jason both talk about how their childhoods and past experiences have led to avoiding conflict in their marriages and how therapy has helped them work on this. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.…
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Turning the Mind / Radical Acceptance Part 2
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Kate and Michelle discuss the importance of using the "turning the mind" skill in the context of finding radical acceptance and teach the four steps of turning the mind. They also both share recent situations in their lives that they are working on radically accepting and discuss the three most common barriers to radical acceptance. Support the Sho…
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Major Announcement: We Wrote a DBT Book!
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Kate and Michelle wrote a book! The title is "DBT For Everyone: A Guide to the Perks, Pitfalls and Possibilities of DBT for Better Mental Health", coming out in November 2023! Listen to this short episode to learn more about how the book came to be and what you can expect from it. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer su…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about struggling with self-love, when to disclose a mental health diagnosis to a romantic partner, disapproving of choices a sibling makes, and coping with family members distancing themselves. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://w…
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DBT and Emotional Eating with Dana Lawson
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Kate is joined by Dana Lawson to talk about DBT and emotional eating. Dana talks about what emotional eating is (and isn't) and what specific DBT skills are most useful for addressing it if it's something you struggle with. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.…
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The 4th Trimester with Shannon Heers: The Physical, Emotional and Relational Challenges
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Kate and Michelle are joined by Shannon Heers, a perinatal mental health therapist, to talk about post-partum experiences, specifically the challenges of the "4th trimester" (the first three months after giving birth). Michelle and Shannon share their experiences with transitioning to motherhood and also share valuable tips and resources. Support t…
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DBT and Teens with Katie May
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Kate and Michelle are joined by Katie May to talk about using DBT with teens. Katie uses her personal experience as a troubled teen combined with her clinical know-how as the leader of a DBT group practice (specifically for teens!) to share insight about how to use DBT successfully with this age group. Whether you're the parent of a teen or a clini…
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Kate and Michelle announce that the frequency of episodes will now be reduced and explain reasons for making this decision. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Facebook group, go to: www.facebook.com/groups/thecouchandthechair If you want to be a guest, have a topic idea in mind or any other questions/feedback, send us an email at thecoucha…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about forgiveness after splitting, emotional self-harm, struggling with a relationship ending, and coping with a difficult housemate. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-group-tickets-51823760161…
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Review of DBT Apps
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Kate and Michelle review four free DBT apps: DBT Coach, DBT Travel Guide, DBT Trivia and Quiz, and Simple DBT Skills Diary Card. For each app, they provide an overview of its features and discuss what they each liked and disliked about it. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https:/…
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Panic Attacks with Chris Campassi: Find What's Underneath the Panic
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Kate and Michelle are joined by special guest Chris Campassi to talk about panic attacks. Chris and Kate share their stories and backgrounds prior to experiencing panic attacks and how they each experience intense anxiety. Tips are shared for how to prevent panic attacks and take care of yourself during and after them. TRIGGER WARNING: Material tha…
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Kate and Michelle answer listener questions about the validity of temporary emotions, returning to practicing skills, creating a life worth living, and how long it takes to see the results of using DBT. TRIGGER WARNING: Material that may be triggering is discussed from 18:21-19:20. Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer s…
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Burnout with Dr. Tara Sanderson: Give Yourself Some Grace
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Kate and Michelle are joined by Dr. Tara Sanderson to talk about experiences with burnout. Tara shares how she started noticing burnout during COVID and Michelle talks about being burnt out at a job she worked at 10 years ago. Tips are shared at the end of the episode about how you can prevent and treat burnout if you start to notice it yourself. T…
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Due to a technical issue when we were recording a couple weeks ago, we don't have an episode to put out today as we typically would. We will be releasing it on December 28th so we will see you all then! Support the Show. If you want to sign up for Kate's free DBT peer support group, you can sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dbt-discussion-…
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Sexual Experiences: Discovering What Actually Turns You On
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Kate and Michelle talk about their sexual histories and how past sexual experiences have either been helpful or harmful to their mental health. They both share how they are re-inventing their sex lives currently and tips that can help you do the same if you want to find more authentic sexual pleasure. Support the Show. If you'd like to join the Fac…
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