# 138 - The Psychology of “No” — Why Halloween Tests Our Boundaries

The Lemon Tree Coaching

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🎃 Halloween may look like pure fun — costumes, candy, laughter, and late nights, but beneath the glow of pumpkin lights, our boundaries often blur.

In this episode, Dr. Allison Sucamele explores the psychology behind why that happens, and how to stay grounded, safe, and true to yourself in the midst of social pressure and sensory overload.

From the “fawn response” to consent clarity, overstimulation, and self-trust, this conversation offers both psychological insight and practical strategies for holding compassionate, clear boundaries on a night when the world says, “It’s just one night.”

✨ Topics include:

• Why our boundaries weaken during collective celebrations
• The neuroscience of the fawn response and social appeasement
• How to create a Halloween Boundary Blueprint
• Scripts for assertive yet kind communication
• How to help teens understand consent and safety

🧠 Mentioned Resources:

• RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)
  – 24/7 confidential support: 800-656-4673
• SAMHSA (Substance Abuse & Mental Health Services Administration)
  – Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
  – Call or text 988 for immediate mental health support
• Brené Brown on Boundaries and Connection
  
• Pete Walker, Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving
  
• DEAR MAN Communication Framework (DBT Skills)
  

⚠️ Disclaimer:
The Lemon Tree Coaching Podcast is for educational and storytelling purposes only and should not replace professional mental health care. Please do not contact the podcast for personal advice, support, or emergencies. If you are in crisis, call or text 988 (U.S.), contact your local emergency services, or visit findahelpline.com
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