32. How to Harness Conflicts to Deepen Connection: A Step-by-Step Approach

The InnerView with Mitra & Ben

What if conflicts can be used as an opportunity to deepen connection ?

In this episode, we unpack a step-by-step approach for how to accomplish this. It doesn’t matter what the conflict is about or whether its a big or small conflict—the system we offer here applies to all of it. Inspired by the Nonviolent Communication framework by Dr. Rosenberg, it is designed to not only strengthen your relationship with others but also with yourself, building self-awareness and confidence.

What You’ll Learn:

• A deeper understanding of how to differentiate between facts and opinion/judgements
• What a feeling is and what it is not and why it is so essential to know the difference
• How to identify your true needs versus your superficial needs (which is what most people focus on)

If you’re someone who ….

• Is looking for ways to resolve a conflict with a loved one,
• Desires to communicate more confidently with your peers,
• Is keen on becoming a better communicator

…then you’ll want to be sure to listen in on this episode. Enjoy!

Chapters:

00:00 : Starting the Conversation on Conflict

01:13 : The Mistake of Blaming Instead of Observing

03:10 : How to Share Facts Without Judgment

04:32 : Removing the Emotional Charge from Words

07:42 : Speaking About the Exchange, Not the Person

09:07 : What Feelings Really Are

14:34 : Letting Emotions Move Through You

17:35 : Turning Inward Instead of Blaming

22:44 : Understanding Our Universal Needs

25:03 : Needs vs. Requests

29:22 : How to Make a True Request

34:01 : Real-Life Examples of NVC in Action

Links :

Learn more about Mitra’s self-coaching program: https://mitramanesh.com/

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