Masking jealousy with stoicism in a poly relationship

The CBT Dive

In this conversation, psychotherapist and host Rahim Thawer is joined by José, a psychologist and poet who lives with their partner. José shares their experience as the anchor partner in a polyamorous relationship and they explore the feelings and behaviors that arise in certain situations, such as when their partner shows affection to another partner but not them. Rahim guides Jose through examining the automatic thoughts and consequences that result from these experiences, including feelings of being replaced or inadequate.
The conversation highlights the importance of open communication and understanding in navigating polyamorous relationships. In this conversation, Rahim helps José identify and analyze their hot thoughts related to feeling forgotten and unappreciated in their polyamorous relationship. They explore past relationship patterns and evaluate evidence to challenge these thoughts. José generates alternative thoughts and reassurances to provide a more balanced perspective. Rahim also suggests asking for affection or attention as a way to address José needs.

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The CBT Dive is a video podcast that brings therapy skills to the real world. Each episode welcomes a new guest who wants to explore a challenging situation using the most common cognitive behavioural therapy tool: the thought record.
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Rahim Thawer is a queer, racialized social worker and psychotherapist based in Toronto. He's created The CBT Dive podcast to support folks who want to learn how to use a thought record and to demystify what therapy can look like.
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