Don't Let Valentine's Day Define Your Love: A Message of Self-Love and Acceptance

The Biz Bruja Podcast

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In this episode...

Vanessa Codorniu is an esteemed psychic medium, intuitive coach, and hypnotist with over 25 years of experience. She is also a Reiki master and draws on her deep spiritual lineage, which includes practiced healers and seers, to aid others in discovering their truths and potential. Vanessa specializes in ancestral healing, offering insight into the spiritual influences that shape personal narratives and relationships.

Summary:

In this insightful episode, Vanessa Codorniu explores the nuanced landscapes of love, relationships, and personal fulfillment. Addressing love from various cultural and personal perspectives, Vanessa provides an authentic take on the significance of St. Valentine's Day, societal pressures, and the ever-evolving journey of self-discovery and connection in romantic contexts.

Vanessa delves into the dichotomy between commercialistic expectations and the genuine, everyday expressions of love. She shares her Latina and familial paradigms around gifting, discussing how media portrayals often skew the perception of what constitutes a meaningful relationship. The episode also touches on the importance of shared experiences over material possessions, challenging listeners to reflect upon the true essence of partnership.

Central to Vanessa's message is the concept of love as a dynamic and personal path that defies one-size-fits-all standards. She weaves astrology into the conversation, shedding light on the influence of Venus placements in shaping one's approach to love and the qualities they may seek in partners. Through anecdotes and wisdom acquired across her own love journey, Vanessa illuminates the varied forms of love, from motherly to romantic, and the lessons found within each.

Takeaways:

• Love extends beyond cultural and commercial norms, and should be celebrated every day in unique, personally meaningful ways.

• Knowing your non-negotiables and red flags in relationships is crucial for maintaining self-respect and achieving fulfilling partnerships.

• Ancestral patterns and societal narratives can significantly influence our approach to love and relationship dynamics.

• It's important to cultivate a sense of self and pursue personal passions, as individual fulfillment contributes to healthier relationships.

• Astrological Venus placements can provide insights into individual love languages and relationship needs.

Timestamp Summary 0:00:06 Introduction to the topic of love and Valentine's Day 0:01:18 Different perspectives on Valentine's Day and gift-giving 0:02:26 Personal experiences with Valentine's Day traditions 0:03:31 Importance of expressing love and appreciation every day 0:04:55 Not letting societal expectations or insecurities affect Valentine's Day 0:06:30 Love requires work and communication 0:07:01 Love as an invitation into soul awareness 0:08:19 Different languages of love and understanding individual needs 0:09:26 Simple gestures of love and the importance of being seen and understood 0:10:44 Childhood experiences and fears related to receiving love 0:11:46 Vanessa Codorniu's background and spiritual journey 0:12:31 The importance of decolonizing spirituality and doing inner work 0:13:14 An example of a couple with hidden secrets and issues 0:14:10 Common needs and desires in relationships 0:14:46 The impact of ancestral patterns on relationships 0:15:38 How subconscious beliefs shape our experiences 0:17:10 The story of a young man who blames jealousy for his lack of success 0:18:19 The importance of addressing family trauma and energetic blocks 0:19:42 The misconception of judging others' relationships based on appearances 0:20:28 The need for personal growth and healing work 0:21:39 Understanding that everyone has their own challenges 0:22:47 Vanessa Codorniu's personal journey and lessons learned 0:23:45 Falling and succeeding in love requires accountability and self-reflection 0:24:16 Acceptance of one's love journey is important 0:24:52 Two acquaintances found purpose in life through their children 0:25:19 Vanessa shares her own unconventional birth story 0:26:22 Each person's love journey is unique 0:27:24 Vanessa reflects on her role as the oldest sibling and translator 0:28:25 Love in Latino culture often involves sacrifice and endurance 0:29:27 Vanessa emphasizes the importance of self-care and therapy 0:30:48 Vanessa shares her experience of dating partners who were on a spiritual path 0:34:05 The importance of doing personal healing work before choosing a partner 0:35:00 Vanessa's criteria for a partner: artistic, social justice-minded, and attractive 0:35:30 Vanessa's experience of living alone and her mother's concerns 0:36:19 Embracing different life stories and not judging one as better than the other 0:37:09 Vanessa's focus on self-discovery and independence before finding a partner 0:38:08 Adjusting her life for her partner but not compromising her core values 0:39:01 The importance of working on oneself and finding joy and fulfillment 0:39:57 Uncovering the suppressed desires and dreams of our female ancestors 0:40:26 Challenging societal expectations and pursuing personal passions 0:42:08 Vanessa's experience of leaving a cheating partner and rebuilding her life 0:43:53 The importance of recognizing red flags and standing up for oneself 0:45:40 Vanessa realizes she's losing herself in a relationship 0:46:06 Importance of loyalty and honesty in a partner 0:46:40 Some things people can't grow into, like addictions 0:47:10 Red flags to look out for in relationships 0:48:04 Importance of valuing oneself and moving on from toxic relationships 0:48:32 Different approaches to relationships for Latinas 0:49:09 Importance of sexual compatibility and desire 0:49:57 Being true to oneself and not settling 0:50:26 Overlooking red flags and regretting it later 0:51:28 The value of being alone and knowing oneself 0:51:57 Being honest about what you want and need in a relationship 0:52:24 Accepting and respecting each other's beliefs 0:52:57 Reflecting on unexpected life outcomes 0:53:22 Being honest about relationship goals and phases 0:53:55 Venus in Aries attracts partners through independence and challenge 0:55:03 Venus in Taurus seeks sensual delights 0:55:36 Venus in Gemini values communication in relationships 0:56:00 Venus in Gemini: Sparkly, youthful, and playful energy 0:56:44 Venus in Virgo: Honest, true to partners, attracted to down-to-earth energy 0:57:24 Venus in Libra: Graceful, artsy, and brings grace into love 0:58:18 Venus in Scorpio: Deep, mysterious, and attracted to exploring deep connections 0:58:55 Venus in Sagittarius: Adventurous, attracted to healthy relationships and different ethnicities 0:59:51 Venus in Capricorn: Takes time to warm up, responsible, ambitious, and needs trust 1:00:45 Venus in Aquarius: Humanitarian, attracted to unique and socially conscious individuals 1:01:55 Venus in Pisces: Deep spirituality, oneness with partner, but be cautious of self-delusion 1:02:29 Venus in Leo: Needs to feel adored, loves being the center of attention 1:04:25 Ancestral patterns affecting love life, need for excitement and passion 1:05:12 Importance of tending to one's own mental health and passions 1:06:34 Challenges are normal, continue doing the inner work 1:07:00 Reach out for support with ancestral patterns affecting love life 1:07:31 Vanessa Codorniu reflects on her life and relationships 1:07:31 Vanessa Codorniu asks herself important questions about her desires and choices 1:07:31 Vanessa Codorniu emphasizes the importance of self-love 1:07:31 Vanessa Codorniu wishes everyone a blessed St. Valentine's Day