S7E1 - Building Boundaries vs. Walls

That Black Couple Podcast

In this episode, Jenn and Daren launch the seventh season by diving into the nuanced topic of boundaries versus walls. They discuss their personal journeys and the importance of setting healthy boundaries in various aspects of life, from relationships to social media to work environments. The episode begins with Jenn sharing insights from Nedra Tawwab's book "Set Boundaries, Find Peace," highlighting the importance of setting boundaries not just with others but also with oneself. They discuss the challenges of maintaining boundaries in relationships, especially when faced with repeated violations. Daren brings up his own experiences with setting boundaries, particularly with family, and the importance of maintaining those boundaries even when it feels difficult. In the Conversation, they explore the difference between boundaries and walls, emphasizing that boundaries are about mutual respect and clear communication, while walls are defensive mechanisms that can hinder healthy relationships. Throughout the episode, Jenn and Daren provide practical examples of how to set and enforce boundaries in various domains, including social media and work environments. They also discuss the importance of recognizing when someone is unable to respect your boundaries and the need to sometimes walk away from those relationships. In the Reflection, Jenn and Daren highlight the importance of knowing oneself and the role of healing in building healthy boundaries. They encourage listeners to examine their own walls and boundaries, offering insights from their personal experiences and research. Reference Material: * Psychology Today: Boundaries - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/boundaries * “Set Boundaries, Find Peace” by Nedra Tawwab - https://amzn.to/4cz0IMQ “The Body Keeps the Score” by Bessel van der Kolk - https://amzn.to/3X8CSDo * “My Grandmother's Hands” by Resmaa Menakem - https://amzn.to/3yT3oqQ Socials: Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/coloredconvosmedia www.ThatBlackCouple.com Email: [e-mail] FB: www.facebook.com/ThatBlackCouple Twitter: www.twitter.com/ThatBlkCouple Instagram: www.instagram.com/thatblkcouple iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/that-black-couple-podcast/id1284072220?mt=2 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/2M7GIQlWxG05gGq0bpBwma?si=xSkjzK0BRJW51rjyl3DWvw Pandora: https://www.pandora.com/podcast/that-black-couple-podcast/PC:1000149014 Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/That-Black-Couple-Podcast/dp/B0C12M7Q34/ SoundCloud: https://soundcloud.com/thatblackcouple Podcast Summary: This is an accidentally funny podcast about the realities of Blackness and adult life. We do “adult” differently. We are That Black Couple. Our goal is to create a space for Black millennials to discuss and embody adult life on their own terms. We aren’t beholden to “traditional” gender or parenting roles, queerness is fluid and present in the ways we show up in our relationships and in the world, and we want to build community with other 30-something Black folx who are trying to figure this ish out.