56. Why You’re Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable People (And How to Stop!)

Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma

Why do we chase the people who pull away?

Ever find yourself obsessing over someone the second they become unavailable? Or maybe you're in a relationship where you and your partner keep swinging between anxious and avoidant behaviors, never quite landing on solid ground? In this episode, I’m answering listener questions about disorganized attachment, why we crave unavailable people, and what it really takes to build a secure, fulfilling relationship. Get ready for some tough love, eye-opening insights, and—of course—real, actionable steps you can take today.

You might want to listen if:

• You keep attracting (or being attracted to) emotionally unavailable partners
• Your relationship feels like a constant push-and-pull, but you don’t know why
• You wonder if two people with disorganized attachment can actually make it work
• You feel like you sabotage relationships as soon as they get serious
• You want to break these patterns and finally build a relationship that lasts

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DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from ...