55: The Four Seasons of Marriage

Love How Deep Marriage

Heather and Brian Mayer discuss the cyclical nature of marriage, comparing it to the four seasons. They explore the concept of new beginnings in spring, the busy and often stressful summer, the reflective and restful autumn, and the challenging winter. Each season brings unique challenges and opportunities for growth. They emphasize the importance of adapting to changes, being intentional in relationships, and seeking rest and reflection. Bible verses from Zechariah, Matthew, Psalm, and Isaiah are referenced to provide spiritual guidance. The conversation concludes with practical advice for maintaining a strong marriage through all seasons and the encouragement to seek help when needed.

Transcript

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Action Items

• [ ] Make Thursday nights "Family Night" to have a dedicated time for the family to connect.
• [ ] Schedule a date night or time to go for a walk in the park to slow down, rest, and reconnect.
• [ ] Reach out for help if going through a difficult "winter" season in the marriage.

Outline The Four Seasons of Marriage: Introduction

• Heather Mayer introduces the podcast episode, number 55, and the topic of the four seasons of marriage.
• Brian Mayer humorously compares the episode number to the speed limit, emphasizing the cyclical nature of the seasons.
• Heather explains the cyclical nature of seasons, drawing a parallel to the cyclical nature of marriage.
• Brian adds that one can look at life in micro and macro seasons, suggesting that a decade can be a season in marriage.

Spring: New Beginnings

• Brian Mayer describes spring as a season of new beginnings, freshness, and regrowth.
• He relates spring in marriage to new beginnings, such as getting married, having children, or moving.
• Brian shares a personal anecdote about feeling overwhelmed when their daughter was born, emphasizing the uncertainty of new beginnings.
• Heather and Brian discuss the importance of allowing time to adjust to new changes and the biblical verse from Zechariah about not despising small beginnings.

Summer: Busy and Active Season

• Heather Mayer describes summer as a busy season with vacations, sports, and various activities.
• Brian and Heather discuss how summer should be a time of relaxation but often becomes busy with family activities.
• Heather emphasizes the importance of being intentional about spending quality time with family and not letting busy activities drive a wedge between spouses.
• Brian suggests slowing down and being fully present in moments to avoid the stress of a busy schedule.

Autumn: A Season of Rest and Reflection

• Brian Mayer describes autumn as a season to slow down, reflect on the past, and prepare for the future.
• Heather compares the fall season to a tree that stops feeding the leaves, leading to color changes, drawing a parallel to resting in marriage.
• They discuss the importance of pruning activities that no longer serve a purpose and making time for family and connection.
• Brian shares a personal story about finding rest and reflection in a pond in Fort Worth, emphasizing the need to take time to rejuvenate.

Winter: The Hardest Season

• Heather Mayer describes winter as the hardest season, characterized by emotional distance and disconnection.
• Brian and Heather discuss the challenges of winter in marriage, such as feeling stuck in a rut or going through difficult times.
• Heather encourages listeners not to lose hope during winter seasons, as spring is coming and God is working behind the scenes.
• They emphasize the importance of calling on the Lord, seeking wisdom, and trusting that God will bring about change and rebirth.

Conclusion and Final Thoughts

• Brian Mayer wraps up the episode by thanking listeners and mentioning the availability of free date night activities on their website.
• Heather shares a final encouraging verse from Ecclesiastes about the cyclical nature of life and the importance of being ready for change.
• Brian reiterates the importance of change and looking to God for rest and guidance during difficult times.
• They encourage listeners to subscribe to their podcast and follow them on social media for more content.