49: I Can't ... It Hurts Too Much

Love How Deep Marriage

Welcome Back to another episode of the Love How Deep podcast. This is episode 49 where Heather discusses how to heal from past hurts.

Heather Mayer discusses overcoming personal struggles by turning to faith and scripture. She emphasizes the importance of letting go of past hurts and fears, sharing her own journey of self-protection and eventual healing. Mayer highlights specific scriptures, such as Psalm 27 and Isaiah 43:18-19, that provided her with strength and encouragement. She also mentions the significance of music and personal notes in reinforcing her faith. Mayer encourages listeners to find scriptures that resonate with them, write them down, and use them as reminders of God's promises and love, ultimately helping them move past their pain and embrace new beginnings.

Heather Mayer introduces herself and mentions that Brian is not present, as he is in the basement. She explains the title of the talk, "I can't it hurts too much," and discusses common struggles like holding onto hurt feelings, fears, anger, and bitterness.

Heather shares her personal journey of living in self-protection mode and how she has come through to the other side.

She expresses her desire to share her experiences to help others become better people and use their healing to help others.

Scriptures and Personal Reflections

Heather reads a scripture from Second Corinthians, emphasizing that God knows when we feel hard-pressed, perplexed, and abandoned but assures us that we are not crushed, abandoned, or destroyed.

She shares her personal experience of turning to God's Word for strength and finding scriptures that provided promises and reassurance.

Heather mentions a friend who gave her a list of scriptures, which she added to and shared with her sister.

She highlights the importance of finding scriptures that speak to you personally and encourage you.

Finding Strength in the Book of Psalms

Heather discusses the book of Psalms, particularly Psalm 27, which she found very encouraging. She notes that David often complains to God in the Psalms but always ends by praising God and acknowledging His strength.

Heather encourages listeners to find a Psalm that resonates with them and to read it for encouragement.

She shares specific verses from Psalm 27 that have been meaningful to her, such as "for in the day of trouble, you will keep me safe in your dwelling."

Lamentations and Personal Reflections

Heather reads from Lamentations 3:19-24, where the speaker remembers their affliction and wandering but finds hope in God's love and faithfulness.

She reflects on the importance of calling to mind God's great love and compassion, which are new every morning.

Heather shares her personal notes from her old journals, where she wrote about God's mercy and faithfulness.

She emphasizes that God's mercy is new every day, and we should take hold of that promise. Isaiah and Personal Revelations

Heather reads from Isaiah 43:1-5, where God reassures Israel that He will be with them through trials and will redeem them.

She personalizes the scripture by reading it as if it were addressed to her, emphasizing God's creation and redemption of her.

Heather shares another verse from Isaiah 43:18-19, which has been a lifeline for her, encouraging her to forget the former things and focus on what God is doing now.

She discusses the challenge of forgetting the past and dwelling on former things, and the importance of trusting God's promise of new things.

Scriptures for Restoration and Moving Forward Heather reads from First Peter 5:10, which talks about God restoring and making strong those who have suffered.

She shares how she wrote down scriptures for restoration and strength, reminding herself of God's promises.

Heather emphasizes the importance of finding specific scriptures that speak to your needs and meditating on them.

She discusses the process of writing down scriptures and reading them regularly to reinforce her faith and trust in God.

The Role of Music in Spiritual Growth

Heather shares her background in music and how it has been a significant part of her spiritual journey.

She mentions printing out song lyrics and using them as reminders of God's promises and encouragement.

Heather highlights the importance of music in connecting with God and finding comfort and strength.

She shares specific songs that have been meaningful to her, such as "Blessed be Your Name" by Matt Redmond.

Personal Testimony and Sharing Your Story

Heather discusses her journey of sharing her personal story of surviving affairs and the impact it had on her.

She shares how a friend encouraged her to share her story, even though she initially resisted. Heather reflects on the importance of sharing one's testimony to help others who have gone through similar experiences.

She shares how her experiences have shaped her purpose and desire to help others through their struggles.

Overcoming Challenges and Trusting God

Heather talks about the various challenges she faced, including financial difficulties, cancer, and a near-death accident.

She emphasizes the importance of trusting God and holding on to His promises during difficult times.

Heather shares how she relied on the same promises and scriptures that had helped her in the past to get through new challenges.

She discusses the importance of focusing on God and His faithfulness rather than dwelling on past hurts.

Practical Steps to Find Strength in Scripture

Heather provides practical steps for finding strength in scripture, such as using a concordance to find specific verses.

She emphasizes the importance of writing down scriptures and reading them regularly to reinforce your faith.

Heather shares how she used music and song lyrics as reminders of God's promises and encouragement.

She encourages listeners to find scriptures that speak to their needs and to meditate on them regularly.

Conclusion and Prayer

Heather concludes by reiterating the importance of letting go of past hurts and focusing on God's promises.

She emphasizes the need to trust God and to look for the new things He is doing in your life. Heather prays for listeners, asking God to wrap His arms around them and to give them strength and encouragement.

She prays that listeners will find scriptures that speak to their needs and that they will begin to let go of past hurts and focus on God's promises.