3. What “The Mental Load” Really Looks Like (and Why It’s So Damn Heavy)

Reproductively Speaking

Let’s talk about something most of us are deeply familiar with, but have a hard time naming: the mental load of parenthood.

It’s that constant “hum” in your brain - the never-ending to-do list of appointments, permission slips, groceries, school lunches, and sooo much more. It’s not just the physical tasks - it’s the THINKING about the tasks.

You’re not imagining it - that invisible project management role is REAL, and it’s freaking exhausting!

Over time, this load builds up from the decision fatigue, irritability, and rage that comes from the littlest things. It’s not that your partner doesn’t care - it’s that many of us were socialized to anticipate everyone’s needs, hold everything together, and never let anyone down.

If you’re thinking “If I don’t do it, it won’t get done”, I get it. I’ve been there too.

This invisible mental load you’re walking around and carrying isn’t something we should “just be grateful for” (sorry, society) - it’s a LOT. You’re human, so it’s okay to set it down for a bit, and take a well-deserved break!

Episode Recap:

• What the mental load really means + how it shows up in everyday life
• Why “helping” with tasks isn’t the same as sharing the mental load
• How this invisible weight builds up over time & leads to resentment or rage
• The role of socialization + why many women become the “default parent”
• Practical ways to make the mental load visible AND redistribute it
• Helpful tools that can support your family
• Why rest isn’t a reward (it’s a necessity)
• Realizing that you’re NOT broken or lazy - you’re just carrying a lot

**Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for therapy or mental health care. If you’re struggling or need support, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional in your area, because you don’t have to go through it alone.

Links/Resources:

• Fair Play by Eve Rodsky
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• Check out my website