Danielle Facey on Loss, Birth Trauma and Finding Her Way Back To Herself In Motherhood

Life After Birth with Yara Heary

Hi mamas. Today on the podcast I am joined by Danielle Facey, also known as the breastfeeding mentor. Danielle is an author, speaker and a fierce advocate of breastfeeding empowerment.

In this beautiful and courageous conversation, Danielle shares her story of becoming a mother; one that includes her experience of miscarriage, birth trauma and her journey back to herself. We discuss how Danielle's experiences of loss and trauma influenced her need for control and resulted in a heightened sense of vigilance when it came to her baby, exacerbated by cultural pressure in the western world. Danielle shares with me her journey to self-acceptance and self-compassion, and “owning” her motherhood” rather than shying away from it.

We also discuss:

• Danielle’s miscarriage and the subsequent breakdown of her toxic marriage, which she now views as a turning point, with a sense of her loss being a catalyst to setting her free. We discuss the nuance of this, and how profoundly our children change us, both our children here on earth with us and the ones who didn’t make it as well.
  
• The traumatic birth of Danielle’s son, her initial feelings of failure and grief over her c-section, and the interplay between this and her determination to breastfeed, viewing it as a way to ‘compensate’ for her perceived failures at the start of her son’s life.

• Danielle’s challenges and lack of support she experienced when it came to breastfeeding, and how this prompted her to support other women with this through her work.

Danielle is kindly offering you 50% off any of the guides on her site with the discount code PODCAST50. Check out the links below to explore her valuable resources.

This is the last episode before I take a short break. I’ll be returning in September with more incredible conversations for you to listen to. During this break, I’ll be re-sharing some of the most popular episodes from the podcast so far for you to enjoy.

Here is where you can find out more about me (Yara), how to work with me and some resources:

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Find out more about Danielle:

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https://www.thebreastfeedingmentor.com/blog

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