What to Do When Your Partner Doesn’t Want Sex (and You Do)

Honest Feedback

What do you do when you’re craving intimacy, but your partner isn’t on the same page? How do you express desire without guilt or pressure — and still get your needs met?

In this episode of Honest Feedback, we answer a tender listener question from a husband trying to navigate a season of mismatched intimacy with his wife. With humor, honesty, and lived experience, we unpack the deeper dynamics of sexual disconnection and offer real, tangible ways to reconnect with your partner and yourself.

Brittney and Lisset share their own journey through mismatched libido, healing sexual trauma, and redefining what intimacy actually means in a long-term relationship. We talk about sex beyond penetration, spontaneous vs. responsive desire, creating rituals of curiosity, and the power of pleasure-centered communication. Plus, shoutouts to books (Come As You Are & Come Together), mentors (hi Libido Fairy), and the truth that sex is supposed to be fun.

Whether you’re the one with higher desire or the one feeling pressure, this episode is here to help you navigate the conversation with love, honesty, and a whole lot of laughter.

This episode is for you if:

• You’ve ever felt the sting of sexual rejection (or feared giving it)
• You want more intimacy but don’t know how to ask
• You’re ready to expand what sex can look like in a long-term relationship
• You’re craving new tools, perspective, and permission to talk about it

Resources Mentioned:

• Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
• Come Together by Emily Nagoski
• Libido Fairy (Hannah Decker – @libidofairy)

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Honest Feedback was created by Brittney King and Lisset King.
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Fejezetek

1. Navigating Mismatched Desires (00:00:00)

2. Creating Safe Spaces for Intimacy (00:06:50)

3. Beyond Penetration: Expanding Sexual Play (00:16:30)

4. Turning Down Turn-Offs (00:21:30)

5. Prioritizing Fun in Sexual Connection (00:28:00)

6. Communication and Honesty in Intimacy (00:33:45)