“Why Do I Have To Be The One To Work On Our Relationship?"

Highly Sensitive, Happily Married

195 This may be one of the most important episodes you will hear to make your marriage the one you want it to be.

Especially if, like so many women, you wonder “Why should I be the one to do the work on our relationship?” Or you feel burdened or resentful that you seem to be alone in working on your marriage. Or if it just seems unfair that a lot of relationship advice is directed at women, when men have so much to learn when it comes to having a great relationship.

If you're feeling that way, I get it. I’ve been there. AND it is making it HARDER to have the loving, connected, mutually supportive marriage you want with your spouse.

In this episode, you’ll hear why. And why this line of thinking is leading to an almost epidemic of women being unhappy in their marriages.

What I want most is for you to feel deeply fulfilled in your relationship–and you want that too! So we’ve got to address this. Because trying to create deeper, better love from a sense of burden and resentment will never work.

You didn’t get married to just tolerate your relationship. You signed up for something way better than that. You want to truly enjoy your marriage. And like it or not, that means you WILL have to work for it, no matter how much your partner is also working on it.

But it can be fun, even joyful. In fact, in this episode, I share how I work on my marriage every single day---with joy, passion, and feeling like it’s a sacred honor that I GET to do–and how you can, too.

Listen to this episode to move past the burden and resentment that comes from feeling like you have to do this work with no or very little help from your spouse, and so you can feel truly empowered to do what it takes to make your marriage what you want it to be.

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