60: Loving Someone with Addiction: How to Set Boundaries Without Shame

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What if helping someone you love is actually hurting you? In this episode, Donna Marston shares her journey as a mother of a child in active addiction—and how she learned to set boundaries, release shame, and reclaim her life.

We talk about the difference between support and enabling, the grief of parenting through addiction, and how healing begins when you choose yourself.

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Fejezetek

1. 60: Loving Someone with Addiction: How to Set Boundaries Without Shame (00:00:00)

2. Naming The Cost Of Helping (00:01:40)

3. Welcome And Host Introduction (00:02:13)

4. Meet Donna Marsden (00:02:53)

5. Gratitude And Personal Check-In (00:04:01)

6. Donna’s Early Journey As A Parent (00:05:53)

7. Hitting Bottom And The Emotional Scale (00:08:26)

8. The Boundary That Changed Everything (00:09:31)

9. Relapse Loops And Treatment Cycles (00:12:51)

10. Unhealthy Helping Vs Healthy Support (00:14:07)

11. Practical Boundaries That Protect (00:17:08)

12. Financial Enabling And Consequences (00:19:13)

13. Legal And Housing Realities For Parents (00:21:07)

14. Family Roles And Sibling Impact (00:22:49)

15. Shame, Stigma, And Silent Grief (00:24:53)

16. The Drama Triangle And How To Exit (00:26:19)

17. Tools For Healing And Codependency (00:28:04)

18. Reclaiming Identity And Expectations (00:29:23)

19. Sharing Without Shame: The Mission (00:30:59)

20. Losing Friends And Finding Authenticity (00:32:04)

21. Being Enough And Sensitive Without Shame (00:33:41)

22. Energy Work And Nervous System Care (00:35:01)

23. One Small First Step: Breathe (00:37:01)

24. Where To Find Donna And Free Guide (00:38:03)

25. Closing Reflections And Listener Invite (00:39:15)

26. Safety Note And Resources (00:40:11)