#192: Seeking safety + security might be ruining you....

Changing The Story with Lana Dingwall

One of the main things drilled into us throughout our lives is that we need to ‘obtain’ safety + security, through a series of events.

A good stable paying job with benefits, saving for retirement, marriage, a house, kids, and other forms of social and material status. If you ‘achieve’ these you’ve done something right… but have you?

Safety and security truly cannot come from something outside of us (a job, a relationship, money), because by its very nature it's meant to actually prioritize something that isn’t just you.

Learning how to ride the various waves of life, the good, the bad, the inbetween with curiosity, openness and a knowing you’ll be alright no matter what - that is true safety and security.

As we close out 2021 and move into 2022, I wanted this year's last podcast episode to be something that helps us all build a tool for a better future, and that tool is ourselves.

Sometimes we give up the very things that could liberate us in the most beautiful of ways, because we’re afraid to give up some sense of safety + security (S+S). We always need to ask ourselves if what we’re giving up is worth what we’re getting in return.

I don’t know if doing work that feels draining, daunting and unfulfilling for most of my life is worth any amount of S+S, but that's just me and you don’t need to agree.

On this weeks (and the final of 2021) podcast episode we discuss…

• How the fear of shame traps us + what do to liberate ourselves from it
• That meeting ourselves in our lowest and darkest moments is how we cultivate real safety and security (and what that looks like)
• That risk isn’t just about the risk of doing something, it’s also about the risk of doing nothing at all
• A reminder that you are not your job title, the amount of money in your account, your marital status or anything else you feel ‘defines you’ and keeps your safe
• That progress is really what we want to focus on with our goals and dreams and that you’re probably doing a better job than you’re giving yourself credit for.

I hope you have a lovely holiday season. I am signing off for a few weeks and will be back in the new year.

You’ve got this my friend!

• Lana

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