61: The ‘Don’t, Won’t, Can’t’ Trap. What’s Really Holding You Back in Recovery

Addiction Recovery

The clearest path to sobriety is usually the simplest: do what works, every day. In this episode, we unpack the Don’t, Won’t, Can’t framework—three common traps that derail recovery by skipping action, avoiding discomfort, or believing “I can’t.”

With real stories and straight talk, we discuss why a meeting a day isn’t overkill—it’s a lifeline. We cover how Zoom meetings keep you connected when life gets busy, and why long-term recovery still depends on the basics: a sponsor, the Twelve Steps (in order), regular meetings, and service that turns pain into purpose.

Steven shares lessons from the hardest parts of recovery—moral inventory and amends—where shame whispers “stop here.” We explore the psychology of self-doubt, the “I’m different” myth, and the illusion that strong-willed people can outthink addiction. Through the lens of fitness and consistency, we show how sobriety, like strength, fades with complacency—and how gratitude can make vigilance joyful, not burdensome.

If you’ve questioned whether daily meetings are doable, how to stay on track in busy seasons, or what to do when “can’t” gets loud, this conversation offers a clear blueprint: keep it small, keep it daily, keep it honest. The path is proven, the light is on, and you’re not alone. If this resonates, follow the show, share it with someone who needs hope, and leave a review to help others find these tools.

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Fejezetek

1. Framing Don’t, Won’t, Can’t (00:00:00)

2. Simplicity Of Recovery And Stakes (00:01:10)

3. What “Don’t” Looks Like Day To Day (00:01:47)

4. Too Busy For Meetings Pushback (00:03:19)

5. Zoom vs In‑Person Meetings (00:05:17)

6. Discipline, Daily Meetings, Long Sobriety (00:06:37)

7. Fitness Analogy And Consistency (00:08:15)

8. Overflowing The Cup And Vigilance (00:10:10)

9. Defining “Won’t” And Stopping Steps (00:12:02)

10. Shame Cycles And The Steps (00:14:08)

11. Defining “Can’t” And Disease Lies (00:15:23)

12. “I’m Different” Myth And Consequences (00:17:21)