Being human is hard work. Let Psych With Mike be your users manual to make it a little easier. Psych With Mike started as a radio show in 2017 and has now evolved into a podcast. The show explores topical events from a psychological perspective and gives insightful, practical and expert information. Psych With Mike is presented by two individuals with more than 60 years of clinical experience between them.
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Want to Understand Your Attachment Style?... Listen to This!
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Attachment and bonding are essential to the health of our relationships and play a vital role in the development of emotional regulation. To find out more, check out this episode.Psych with Mike által
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As psychotherapists, Brett and I have had literally thousands of conversations with clients about guilt. It is one of the most common issues that people deal with. But what do you know about guilt and its cousin, remorse? In this episode, Brett and I will break =down the difference between guilt and remorse and common sense ways to cope with both.…
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It is now universally accepted that trauma (both acute and chronic) has real biological impacts on the brain. Today Brett and I discuss how to treat and even heal trauma.Psych with Mike által
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The Man, The Legend, Rollo May
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Rollo May (1909-1994) is one of the true greats in the annals of psychology. Even though he was integral in the evolution of existential and humanistic psychology, he remain a grounded and modest man. This may be why his name is so well known but his achievements may not be. He routinely brushed shoulders with men like Maslow, Rogers, and Frankl, t…
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What is a Doorknob Bombshell in Therapy?
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In therapy, clients often disclose significant/important information just as a session is ending. Today we discuss why this happens and what therapists must know to handle these situations appropriately/therapeutically.Psych with Mike által
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Mirroring in Heinz Kohut's Self Psychology
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In Kohut's Self Psychology, mirroring is an important concept integral to developing self-esteem and emotional regulation. Mirroring is also important in the therapeutic relationship. Listen to find out more.Psych with Mike által
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Rumination, or feeding thoughts (usually negative) back on themselves in a vicious loop, is something all of us have experienced in our lives. Sometimes, rumination can become a stumbling block, and when that happens, people may need help getting out of that rut.Psych with Mike által
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Why it's Hard to Think Rationally When You are Having an Emotion
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Because of the way the human brain is designed, it feeds resources to the most basic functions first. This is for survival, so our autonomic functions (breathing, heartbeat) are first. Emotions and survival instincts are second. Finally, last is our cortex and rational thinking.Psych with Mike által
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What is the Parental Introject?
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While writing the book we are working on, Brett and I often use terms familiar to those who work in psychology but may not be familiar to others. The Parental Introject is an example of one such term. In this episode, we discuss the parental introject and provide answers about how to correct/change introjects that may be problematic or harmful.…
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The Difference in the Emotional Life of Men And Women
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Big boys don't _____________. Fear is a sign of _______________. If you know the answers to these questions, then you know that the way our culture conditions men and women to process their emotions is different.Psych with Mike által
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The Biology of Emotions
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What are emotions? Brett and I delve into the biology of how emotions work in the human body.Psych with Mike által
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Do you know what an emotion is? Well listen to the next two Psych with Mike and Brett episodes and see if your definition changes.Psych with Mike által
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The Psychology of Aging
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According to the Census Bureau, this year (2024) the largest proportion of the baby boomer generation will turn 65. By 2030 all baby boomers will be 65 or older. This means that in 2030 the 65 and older population will comprise 20% of the total population in the US. This is the largest percentage of elderly persons in the US population in the count…
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We usually think that all stress is bad, but that is actually not true!Psych with Mike által
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The Most Listened to Psych with Mike
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This is the most listened-to Psych with Mike that Brett and I did. The episode is all about Transactional Analysis. When reviewing the numbers it was not even close. Enjoy!Psych with Mike által
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The First Ever Psych with Mike
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This was the first Psych with Mike that Brett and I ever did. The audio is horrible and there was no video but the conversation was great!Psych with Mike által
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With Brett no longer on the show, I am looking for the path forward for the show! https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/acceptance https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/click-here-happiness/202108/how-practice-acceptance https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-closure-in-a-relationship-5224411 https://theconversation.com/the-psychology-of-closu…
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The Psychology of Saying Goodbye
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It is often very difficult to say goodbye. Whether the result of life passing, ending a relationship, or, moving far away, there is a period of our lives that are ending. On the other hand, there is a new period of life that is beginning. As for my friend, Brett Newcomb, I will forever be grateful for the contributions he made to the show and for b…
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How To Get The Most Out Of Therapy
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You make the decision to go to therapy. Good on you! Now make sure you are ready to make it a useful and rewarding experience! https://psychcentral.com/lib/therapists-spill-tips-for-making-the-most-of-therapy https://www.healthline.com/health/what-to-talk-about-in-therapyPsych with Mike által
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Emotional Regulation in Adulthood
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This is a revisit of one of the most downloaded episodes of Psych with Mike. This is a topic close to my heart since I believe that emotional regulation is the central issue is all psychotherapy.Psych with Mike által
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How to Feel Less Lonely
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The Surgeon General of the US recently released a report on loneliness. In it, the physiological effects of loneliness were found to be equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day. These kinds of physiological findings just affirm what all of us already know, loneliness hurts! It hurts us both psychologically and physically. Surgeon General's Report …
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The Power of Self-Forgiveness
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Many people find it harder to forgive themselves than they do to forgive others. We may feel like we do not deserve forgiveness or that if we forgive ourselves then we were never truly sorry for the behavior. Whatever the reason, when we do not forgive ourselves we remain in perpetual psychological bondage. https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-forgive-y…
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Nihilism and Psychology
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What is nihilism and what does it have to do with psychology? Most of us have heard of the philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche and some know that he is credited with promoting the ideas of nihilism. But how many actually know what nihilism is and how it plays a role in psychology? https://psyche.co/ideas/for-nietzsche-nihilism-goes-deeper-than-life-is-…
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Does Personality Chamge
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Does our personality change and evolve over the lifespan? Or does personality remain consistent and static from adolescence? https://psyche.co/ideas/theres-a-reason-some-of-us-find-it-easier-to-change-than-others?utm_source=Aeon+Newsletter&utm_campaign=8e4e0f2ec4-EMAIL_CAMPAIGN_2023_03_10&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_-b1f49aa884-%5BLIST_EMAIL_ID%5D…
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The term "Brain Fog" has been around for a long time but has gained increased significance during the pandemic. What IS brain fog and can we do anything about it? https://www.cnbc.com/2023/01/31/neuroscientist-how-to-avoid-brain-fog.htmlPsych with Mike által
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Good Communication Skills
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Communication is the most basic way that humans connect. Good knowledgeable skills are the foundation of good interactions! https://www.inc.com/minda-zetlin/3-things-people-who-are-good-at-conversation-dont-do-according-to-a-research-psychologist.htmlPsych with Mike által
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How Trauma Changes Connections in the Brain
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Research is building an indisputable record of evidence supporting the belief that the experience of trauma changes the way the brain is wired. Trauma that is low-level over a long period of time (chronic) can be just as transformative as trauma that is intense and sudden (acute) https://www.sciencenews.org/article/trauma-distorts-time-self-new-the…
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What is Positive Psychology?
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The introduction of concepts like "mindfulness" and "positive psychology" is only helpful if they can be defined. In science, this is called operational definition. Is Positive Psychology an actual theoretical orientation or just a new-wave fad? https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-positive-psychology-2794902…
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Are There Learning Styles and Why Does it Matter?
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As long-time educators, Brett and I have always accepted the concept that different people learn in different ways. A recent article in Aeon magazine challenges this long-held belief. https://aeon.co/essays/the-evidence-is-clear-learning-styles-theory-doesnt-work?utm_source=Aeon+Newsletter&utm_campaign=83087b53bc-EMAIL_CAMPAIGN_2023_01_24_05_07&utm…
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Heinz Kohut and Self Psychology
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Heinz Kohut and Self Psychology establish the foundational understanding of the development of emotional regulation. But perhaps his most impressive contribution to the field was his introduction of empathy into the therapy relationship. https://www.selfpsychologypsychoanalysis.org/about.htmlPsych with Mike által
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How Much Should You Know About Your Therapist?
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Clients are often very curious about the private lives of their therapists. But therapists are educated to present themselves as a blank slate. The amount of self-disclosure that a therapist engages in therefore is a balance between what is most therapeutic for the client and the therapist's presentation as genuine and sincere. https://aeon.co/vide…
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Breathwork is a core technique in counseling and psychotherapy. It has also been a central tenet of practices as old as Zen meditation. But what are the therapeutic and/or health benefits of breathwork? https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/science-says-use-relaxing-breath-method-to-fall-asleep-faster-starting-tonight.html…
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Otto Kernberg is Still Alive! Who Knew?
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Otto Kernberg is one of the most influential theorists responsible for our understanding of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)! https://www.verywellmind.com/borderline-personality-disorder-meaning-425191Psych with Mike által
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What Does it Mean to be a Dry Drunk?
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There is a whole vocabulary associated with recovery from alcohol and drugs. For those who are not in the program or do not work professionally with those in recovery, this can be very confusing. Brett recently was talking to a friend about what it means to be a dry drunk and found that even he had many questions. https://www.webmd.com/mental-healt…
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Ketamine and Depression
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Ketamine is the only psychedelic substance that has been approved by the FDA for the treatment of depression, so far. How does this drug help depression and will other psychedelics get approval in the future? https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2022/09/12/ketamine-therapy-explained/Psych with Mike által
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The Enneagram is a personality classification system based on the work and theories of Carl Gustav Jung.Psych with MikeThe által
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The Best Advice from 2022
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In early 2023, Brett and I discuss 10 lessons from 2022. https://www.wellandgood.com/best-advice-from-therapists/Psych with Mike által
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Understanding Insecure Attachment
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Attachment styles play a huge part in successful and enjoyable relationships. But most of us do not even know what our attachment style is. https://www.verywellhealth.com/insecure-attachment-5220170Psych with Mike által
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Are There Narcissistic Kids?
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A current buzzword in psychology and also society at large is, entitled child. But before that psychology had a word for those who saw themselves as wonderful and that was narcissism. Are these separate concepts or just opposite sides of the same coin? https://awarenessact.com/narcissistic-children-are-raised-by-parents-who-do-these-8-things/?fbcli…
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How to Create Resolutions You Can Actually Stick With
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Happy New Year to you and your loved ones from us at Psych with Mike. This is a revisit of a conversation that Brett and I had on making resolutions that work. Enjoy and the best of luck in the new year!Psych with Mike által
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Habits of Unhealthy People
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It's been a long two years. Over this holiday season, many of us may be re-evaluating our behavior in the hopes of making better choices and improving our physical and mental health in the new year. But to do this effectively we need to know what behaviors we may have fallen into that are not the healthiest for us. https://www.forbes.com/sites/trav…
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The Power of Letting Go
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All of us have past trauma that affects us in the present. It is cliche to hear someone say "you have to let it go". But how do you do this? https://www.berkeleywellbeing.com/letting-go.html https://unfoldingtheuniversewithin.com/the-art-of-letting-go-of-the-past/Psych with Mike által
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Avoidant Attachment Style
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Relationships are at the core of being a healthy human being. We develop attachment styles as a result of our experiences early in our lives. One of these attachment styles is avoidant attachment. Today we discuss the characteristics of this attachment style and how it impacts our relationships. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-clarity/2…
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The Neurology of Fear and Anxiety
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As better ways of exploring the way our brains are connected become available, we are mapping these connections with greater precision. Does a better, more comprehensive map of the way areas of the brain operate make psychology more of a "hard" science? https://neurosciencenews.com/amygdala-emotion-20969/…
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The Language of Passive Aggression
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We all have heard someone accuse someone of being passive-aggressive. But how many of us really know what that means or how to identify the behavior? https://www.cnbc.com/2022/09/25/the-3-biggest-signs-of-passive-aggressive-and-childish-behavior-harvard-body-language-expert.htmlPsych with Mike által
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Therapy and mental health are recognized as being in epidemic-like short supply. With the pandemic and political division, people are finding their mental health has taken a big hit over the last couple of years. And yet there is growing dissatisfaction among therapy devotees and unequal availability of therapy services across socioeconomic domains…
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The Epidemic of Loneliness
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As we move beyond the pandemic we are seeing a significant increase in the number of persons who express that they are feeling lonely. What are the factors that are contributing to this besides the isolation of the pandemic? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-ptsd/202207/how-childhood-trauma-can-lead-adult-loneliness…
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Self Talk to Boost Your Confidence
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We could all use a little boost to our self-esteem. You're welcome! https://www.cnbc.com/2022/09/18/want-to-sound-and-feel-more-confident-ditch-these-11-phrases-from-your-vocabulary-say-psychologists.htmlPsych with Mike által
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What is Happening to the Human Attention Span?
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Studies indicate that the human attention span has significantly shortened since the rise of social media. Why is it getting so hard for us to focus our attention? https://www.ranieriandco.com/post/changing-attention-span-and-what-it-means-for-content-in-2021 https://www.theguardian.com/society/2019/apr/16/got-a-minute-global-attention-span-is-narr…
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The Neuroscience of Enlightenment
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Enlightenment, self-actualization, and, mindfulness are ideal states of being that we are all striving for. But what is the neuroscience that supports the idea that enlightenment is a real phenomenon that has beneficial effects? https://bigthink.com/the-well/neuroscience-of-enlightenment/Psych with Mike által
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