“Most forced stuff is good, really.” — Nea Ching "Why Are People Into That?: A Cultural Investigation of Kink" THE BOOK IS OUT NOW wherever books are sold in hardcover, ebook, and audiobook read by me! The episode you’re listening to now was recorded in July of 2021 at Junior High gallery in Los Angeles. It was one of the first in-person events I d…

"Why Are People Into That?: A Cultural Investigation of Kink" THE BOOK IS OUT TODAY June 4th, 2024. Happy birthday baby! The episode you’re listening to now was recorded in July of 2021 at Junior High gallery in Los Angeles. It was one of the first in-person events I did after getting vaccinated. I’ve been sitting on this footage and other footage …

Welcome back to the first new feed drop in three years. I appreciate that you’re still subscribed, and I hope this was a nice treat in your podcast updates today. People tell me all the time they still listen to back episodes. I’m so grateful for that, and for all the listener support over the years. The major reason I haven’t been actively doing t…

Yin Q, writer of the piece "We All Deserve To Heal" from We Too, discusses Spike Lee, Body of Workers, Kink Out Spaces at MOMA PS1, disassociation, complicity, power play, control, and forgiveness. // Yin Q is a mother, kink educator, writer, and activist based in New York City. Their media work includes Mercy Mistress, a web pilot, and Fly in Powe…

“They have no stakes. We have all of the stakes.” In the latest episode of my special series on WE TOO: Essays on Sex Work and Survival, I interviewed Selena the Stripper, who wrote the book's introduction. Discussed: FKA Twigs' pole dance appropriation; who gets to use the word Heaux: sugar dating; the status value of a Birkin bag; Strippers Unite…

For the first episode of a special series celebrating the release of We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival, I chatted with the book's editor Natalie West. (I associate edited and contributed to the anthology!) // "You have to be ok with ambiguity to grapple with what the book presents and what sex work is."// Natalie reflects on her choice to mar…

Hey YAPIT fans! I'm focusing my energy on SfSx Volume 2, the hustle, and work/life balance in these turbulent times. Listen for a few words on my hiatus, and what to expect in 2021. xoxoxo TH Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/yapit. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more inform…

“No amount of assimilation or pride has shaken this sense of myself as an inverted dark predatory lesbian.” // Certified lesbian vampire Annie Rose Malamet joins me to explain the appeal of darkness, finesse, predation, the night, immortal codependency, two little wounds in the neck, ejaculating blood, obsession, morbidity, the shadow self, and per…

"How can brands do more for social justice movements? Give people pleasure! Give people a reason to have a wet a$s p#ssy! Uplifting difficult conversations about Black Lives Matter: that’s what makes p#ssy wet! Loving relationships and care starts with pleasure and understanding your needs. And guess what? Social and political justice are needs lik…

“Kink is an arena where I find tidiness.” // In Part 2 of my talk with Juno Mac, co-author of Revolting Prostitutes, we discuss: great books about sex work, rational thoughts in an irrational world, whether there's such a thing as the sex worker gaze, what the Hustlers of prostitution will look like, why it’s imperative that sex work activism cente…

“Is it ok for 'Juno Mac' to be an anxious hooker and an advocate for sex worker rights? Am I allowed to be a messy, complicated person?” // The co-author of the indispensable book Revolting Prostitutes join me over the phone from her quarantine in England to discuss: the unfair pressure of compartmentalizing our own sex lives and whoreientations, w…

“The push and pull between clarity and imagination is something I think about a lot in visual storytelling.” // I called up SfSx series artist Jen Hickman to celebrate the release of our SfSx: Volume 1: Protection trade paperback on July 22nd! Jen and I discuss our collaborative process, and Jen gives some insight into how they think about formatti…

“The funny thing about Crash Pad is: you know that I know that you know that I know that there’s cameras in there." // In Part 2 of my interview with Shine, we focus in on Why Are People Into Voyeurism. // Shine tells a legendary tale of how seeing herself in the mirrors at the Lusty Lady inspired Crash Pad Series. We discuss how the voyeurism them…

On May 11th, I recorded an episode remotely with Shine, about 15 years of Crash Pad Series, and a second part about voyeurism. On June 24th, I called her back to get her perspective on the Movement for Black Lives. This is part one, including our talks about BLM and CPS. Voyeurism coming soon. // “If you tell professionals what to do they won’t rif…

What is the Whorearchy? How can understanding it help us to combat whorephobia? This portmanteau meaning Whore-Hierarchy is a term originating from and used within the sex worker rights movement describing social stratification within the industry. In honor of International Whores Day on June 2nd, here's my lecture from a 10.26.17 Stigma Unbound ev…

“There’s a part of me that’s going to enact a sadism on you from the inside.” // It’s YAPIT: COVID-19 Lightning Round Edition, recorded live on Instagram May 2nd 2020. // In which I really try my best to game-ify YAPIT even though I don’t have a game brain and cannot follow my own rules. // We cover: masks, medical fetishism, nano-objects, virtual …

"That’s the sex appeal of fascism: the desire to be violated. To be cut through like butter and spread... Fascism is sexy because it’s dangerous, confident, and... leather! It’s scary and comforting at the same time, because you don’t have to make any decisions. We’re afraid of it because our power is taken away, and we want it because we want our …

“What does our desire endorse?” // Content Warning: This episode features two Jewish leftist queers in Brooklyn talking about the history, aesthetics, and complicated erotic allegories of fascism. Some graphic references to torture from fictional films including Salò and The Night Porter. // In the first YAPIT recorded during the COVID-19 quarantin…

“I really like people to cry at my titty show!” // In part 2, Fancy and I get to the bottom of that age old debate: is burlesque stripping? Fancy recounts the plastic bag routine that won her Miss Coney Island 2016, as well as some of her favorite acts by Tiger Bay, Julie Atlas Muz & Mat Fraser, and Darlinda Just Darlinda (including an apocalyptic …

“I don’t experience my naked body as inherently erotic. It’s my body, and I like it. It has so much more to do for me with the glamour and the transgression. That’s the part where I’m comfortable and excited. Burlesque was the first time I ever saw an exalted fat body.” Fancy Feast joins me for a talk about the art of burlesque. But first we discus…

“All subcultures use aesthetics to establish community." // Fetish artist and aesthete Lanee Bird joined me the day after her film Laboratory was screened as part of Kink Out: Spaces at MOMA PS1. We talked fetish as: obsession, reverence, precision, perfectionism, discomfort, fashion... and how being a bottom contributes to Lanee's talents. // Lane…

"Riding someone while biting them is like consuming them from both ends.” / “The esophagus is the thinking man’s rectum.” / Worship, biting, vampirism, feeding frenzies, body farms, eating pubes, menstrual blood, ripping into each other, the act of service of giving someone your life force, the Cannibal cop, Der Metzgermeister, eating the placenta …

“While my mouth is open, he gets lost among my teeth, sliding down my throat, not being able to escape my mouth.” // In truly one of the most deranged episodes in the history of this podcast, Empress Wu and I speculate about the thrall of cannibalism, figurative and in some cases literal. Mukbang videos, a client called Mental Dental, vore, giantes…

“I’ll chain you to the bed and put a pretty bow on you” // This live show, recorded at the NYC Pleasure Chest in December 2019, is all about balance: silk ties and heavy metal shackles, being juicy and muscular, being a genderqueer parent and glamorous pro-domme. Amazon Maddox aka BrujaPxssy tells their kink origin story, explores topics of fat pos…

The last pod of the year is footage from my first class of the year: Getting Clean to Get Dirty: Anal Prep, Health, and Pleasure at the West Hollywood Pleasure Chest from January 2019! Anal play is one of the most pleasurable and taboo-busting forms of sexy fun. Yet the most common (and understandable) inhibitor to a wild and fun butt session is: w…

“It’s a strengthening of the will. It’s letting them surrender into their purpose of service." Yin Q is a BDSM ritualist/educator, mother to two fierce children and two calm animals, and writer of Mercy Mistress, a web series based on Q’s memoirs of coming-into- kink and sex work (Exec Prod. Margaret Cho). Yin founded Kink Out to bring together int…

In Part 2, Christine graces us with some explicit Catholic play stories. We discuss cilices, bloody bibles, corruption, possession, places to store a rosary, lesbian nuns, demon dildos, and mortification of the motherfuckin flesh! She offers a quick take on blood play, the inherent camp of vestments, and the inherent cannibalism of transubstantiati…

DaemonumX aka Christine talks about her leather dyke zine FIST, her polyamory zine LINKED, and what it even means to be a zine maker in 2019. We also chat about her notorious rope suspension performances and why they’re more about sadism than beauty. Then we settle into a discussion of Catholicism: how Christine went from an inquisitive young Catho…

In Part 2 of my conversation with Gothic Queer Culture writer Laura Westengard, we get into BDSM as both haunting and time travel, and take a close look at the contemporary queer performance artists M Lamar, Zackary Drucker and Cassils. Laura also gives us a tease of her upcoming book on historical medical horrors, and how that might connect to SfS…

Just in time for the nights to get longer, CUNY professor and author of the new book Gothic Queer Culture Laura Westengard discusses insidious trauma: from Castle of Otranto to True Blood, how vampires create their own erotic holes, and why monster desire is always queer desire. // Laura Westengard (she/her/hers) is an Associate Professor of Englis…

Molecular biophysicist and queer lit slut Joe Osmundson gets into it with Tina on the great debate of our time: saline vs water enemas. You'll be surprised by their, um, artisanal isotonic douche solutions! Discussed: the inner and outer world of the epithelium, why queer sexual health is under-studied, why you should listen to Frank Ocean while gi…

“I birth what I destroy.” / In Part 2 of our talk about sploshing, crushing, sugar, and fetish labor, Lindsay discusses her very first on cam sit, the many meanings of consumption, and the transformative narrative arc of cake sitting. / Lindsay Dye is a 31 year old artist and sex worker of Puerto Rican descent from Miami, Florida. She holds an MFA …

"The fetish itself is anti-consumption.” Lindsay Dye is a cam model, performance artist, and sculptor who specializes in the fetish known as cake sitting. In this episode, she explains the intersection of WAM (Wet & Messy Play) with crushing fetishism, as well as how Miami, empathy, clowning, power, laughter, tears, and more inform her public sitti…

Decriminalized & destigmatized cannabis use is entering a new American era, and that means there's more ways than ever to incorporate this classic aphrodisiac into our love lives. For another live episode at the Pleasure Chest in NYC, Tina sat down with sex and weed journalist Sophie Saint Thomas and pleasure educator Carly to break down the scienc…

Whether it’s been a few years since you heard it or you’re getting slobbered on by it for the first time, please enjoy this rerun of Why Are People Into Puppy Play! with Rocket/Yandy. Fetch! Speak! Roll over! This episode is all about people who love to role play as dogs. Sometimes their puppy persona becomes a part of their sexual identity, a way …

In Part Two, Stoya and I discuss: The Reunion by Laura Antoniou (and psychological erotica), Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski (and arousal non-concordance), The Guide to Getting It On (how Stoya masturbated to it and why Tina hates it), Mercedes Lachey's book that has a scene where people fuck on some rocks (that Stoya can't remember the name of), …

Porn legend, writer, and avowed sapiosexual Stoya joins me for a talk about musty-smelling paperbacks, big fat library shelves, and randomly also necrophilia?! We ask: Is it classist to only want to date someone who knows what "Wherefore" means in "Wherefore art thou Romeo?"?! Would John Waters want to top Stoya? Who is going to make a venn diagram…

“I brought you into this world, and I can take you out of it!” / In this hilarious and boundary-pushing live episode, recorded in March 2019 at the 2nd Ave Pleasure Chest in NYC, I'm joined by two other queer sex workers, Ashley Paige and Corey More, to discuss the persistently taboo yet insurgently popular concept of incest fantasies! We deepen ou…

“We are made to feel powerless non-consensually all the time. This is an opportunity to take the power back.” / Content warning: This is conversation between two queer women about erotic fantasies that involve themes of force and violation. Rape scenes are the most fundamental yet thorniest of sexual fantasies. Whether it's force and resistance, ps…

“Every time she’s stimulated it’s utter chaos!” / In Part2 of my conversation with Katie Skelly we discuss whether erotic comics benefit from stories, Italian class dynamics in Milo Manara’s Click, grotesquery in Lisa Hanawalt, Go Nagai, Gina Wynbrandt's Someone Please Have Sex with Me, Dave Cooper's Ripple, the un-dying allure of the comic book st…

“I get away with a lot!” / Katie Skelly and I discuss puffy bulging vulvas, the “dark whimsy” of her psychedelic erotic comic books, why people think her phantasmagoria is a personal ad, how she got away with showing a certain superhero eating ass on a spaceship, and how she was influenced by looking at Vogue in her parents’ newsstand. / Katie Skel…

"Trauma and shame show up in the body in the same ways.” / In this Interrobang, Andrea Glik, LMSW discusses her therapy practice, how BDSM can help us to heal from trauma, what depression looks like in your nervous system, and which Cate Blanchett character she would want a sex robot to impersonate for her. / Andrea Glik, LMSW is a psychotherapist,…

"I was called a ho long before I became an actual sex worker.” / The brilliant and deviant Ashley Paige joins me again to discuss the Marriott hotel’s classist sex worker profiling, the racial difference between a slut and a ho, and Ashley’s personal history in the sex industry. / Content warning: at about 40 minutes this episode gets extra real: w…

"He called me Daddy and I've never felt my lips quiver so hard in my life." / I figured since we started the year off talking about Leather Mommies, it would only be fair to give some space to masculine nurturing dominants. And who better to embody that queer Daddy vibe than professional dominatrix Ashley Paige? / We discussed what it means for wom…

A storytelling heavy flow celebrating some under-appreciated things many people find mystifying and/or disgusting: menstruation, the full internal structure of the clitoris, body scents, and hair! / Recorded November 2018 at Pleasure Chest on 2nd Ave in NYC. Live engineered by Ben Weber, co-sponsored by Acast. Music by TreZure Empire! / Arielle Ego…

“Kinky people have the upper hand!" Queer icon Margaret Cho is now executive producing Yin Q’s webseries Mercy Mistress, so I got the honor of interviewing her when I was in Los Angeles. We chatted about the importance of seeing yourself represented in pop culture, how hard it is to be a good dominatrix, and what BDSM can teach us about consent. / …

"Why be ashamed of my fetishes when I can fetishize my shame?" / My conversation w Chingy continues with this deeply personal dive into kinky Mommy lust. Leather Mommies are the new Leather Daddies in this funny and taboo episode. / Chingy is a writer, actress, humorist and all-around funny pervert based out of Los Angeles and Oakland, CA. Her work…

Chingy is one of my favorite queer meme makers, so when I was out in LA I got together with her to discuss comic book fetish art, what makes her the bottom supreme, and why she wants to devote herself utterly to an artificially intelligent house. Tune in next week for our deep dive into Why Are People Into Mommies?!. // Chingy is a writer, actress,…

"People who share their fantasies are the happiest and most sexually satisfied in their relationships." // What’s the different between a fetish and a fantasy? What are the benefits of communicating our deepest desires? What are the most common fantasies among Republicans versus Democrats? These and many more questions are address by social psychol…

Miki is an entrepreneur whose work focuses on the taboo bodily fluids we’re usually too ashamed to even discuss. In this Interrobang, Miki discusses the personal and environmental effect of toilet habits, the civic horror of fatbergs, the relationship between anal health and anal pleasure, and why porn star Asa Akira was the perfect spokesperson fo…