When we're not honest with the people in our lives - we can create so much harm and disconnection. And yet... sometimes humans lie! In today's episode, I'm discussing: Why humans lie The act of self-preservation Bringing curiosity to situations - instead of black & white thinking How to handle conversations around lying And the fear of being lied t…

Do you often find yourself thinking: 'Why am I still thinking this?!' 'What's wrong with me!' 'I shouldn't STILL feel this way...' Maybe you've done the work of challenging your unhelpful thoughts, but find them still popping up and ruining your day? If you're feeling disheartened and frustrated with your brain right now - this episode is for YOU. …

In today's episode - I'm answering questions written in by some of you lovely listeners. We're going to cover a wide range of topics, including: Feeling guilt for things like finding other people attractive Should I tell my partner about the work I'm doing on myself? The fear of missing a sign that you're being cheated on Feeling like you attract b…

Do you often feel jealous in your relationships? Maybe your partner mentions a new co-worker, or a friend you're a little insecure about, or maybe you get that pit in your stomach when your best friend mentions one of their other friends... Jealousy is a normal human emotion. But it can cause so much havoc when left unchecked. In this episode we're…

This episode is for anyone that's tired of feeling like a slave to their anxious brain. One of the biggest shifts for me was changing my relationship to my anxious thoughts. Most of us take our thoughts verrrrry seriously. We think the fact our brain is saying something to us MUST mean it's true. We place a lot of importance on the thoughts in our …

In today's episode, I'm talking about how knowing our core values can help guide us in and out of our relationships. We'll be covering: What values are How yours and your partner's values may differ Whether that's a problem And how to let your values guide you when making decisions Mentioned in the episode: James Clear's list of values Sign up to m…

In today's episode, I'm interviewing one of my past clients and amazing friends - Mariah Kay. Mariah speaks openly about her journey navigating her husband's alcohol addiction and talks about how you can help your partner in their recovery. Mariah now coaches women facing the same struggles. Find her at @myhusbandsaddiction Check out her website: h…

As promised - in today's episode I'm answering 6 questions from listeners on a variety of topics. Including: The fear of falling out of love with your partner When to end a relationship / when to try again Comparing yourself (and your life) to others Jealousy over your partner's success What to do when you're triggered Mentioned in the episode: Pro…

Do you feel terrified about what your partner may or may not be doing online... Here's a snippet from a question I received from a listener: "My question is about trusting someone in the digital age. It feels like more and more our devices are built for hiding things. Every social media app now seems to have a vanishing mode for deleting conversati…

Anyone who has ever felt anxiety in their relationships will know what it's like to feel constantly afraid. To fear what other people might be thinking of us... To fear what our partners or friends might do... To fear having to start again... To fear being alone... But I believe the antidote to fear is courage. And so in today's episode, I'm talkin…

Ever make requests of your partner (or friend / family member) and maybe they agree to do it... but they don't really do it the way you hoped? Maybe you ask them to plan more romantic date nights - and they do for a week or so - but then they go back to their old pattern of behaviour? Or perhaps you're struggling with knowing when to compromise in …

Our brains are always constructing a narrative. We make meanings out of the things that have happened in our pasts, and then these stories shape and distort the way we think about situations in our present and what we create for our futures. But did you know that you could rewrite your entire past, simply by changing the way you think about it? Hav…

Do you feel a little frustrated, disappointed or let down by some of the people in your life right now? Maybe you had expectations of how certain relatives or loved ones would behave over Christmas, and they didn't quite hit the mark... It's easy for us to slip into victim mode in these moments, and mentally give all power over our emotions to the …

Feeling dread as Christmas approaches? Worrying about spending time with family members and feeling triggered? Have you done a lot of work on yourself this year, and fear that it may all fly out the window as soon as you're around your parents, neighbours, or distant relatives? If so... I've got you! This is the reminder we ALL need this time of ye…

This week, I'm resharing one of my older episodes which answers a really common question I get when I teach people that their partners don't create their feelings. People ask me: 'But if my partner isn't creating my emotions for me, and their job isn't to 'make me feel good' - then what's the point of relationships?!' If your brain has offered a si…

Do you see posts on Instagram about red flags and instantly feel the pit of anxiety in your stomach? Are you often worried about missing the signs that your partner isn't trustworthy? And have you beaten yourself up in the past for 'not seeing it coming' and felt embarrassed, stupid, and naïve? If so - this episode is for YOU. I'm offering an oppos…

Do you and your partner often have the same fight over and over? Or is there an issue you have with a friend that has been happening for a while now - and you just can't seem to break the cycle? Do you find yourself having the same reaction - and then them having their usual reaction... And then suddenly you're in the same fight you've had many tim…

We can all be a little codependent sometimes. We're all humans with human brains after all! But sometimes codependent ways of thinking can take on a life of their own - and create a lot of anxiety, fear, and resentment in relationships. Do you feel like your mood can be ruined by the mood of the people around you? Do you instantly feel anxious if y…

When we're feeling anxious, there are certain things that are going to help us... And certain things that aren't... In today's episode, I'm talking about the things that DO NOT help you when you're feeling anxious and what to do instead. Mentioned in the episode: Next round of my group coaching programme - DETAILS…

Does your brain just LOVE to worry? So much so you're pretty sure you could win an Olympic medal if worrying was a category? In today's episode, I'm talking to Emilie Leyes - expert in brain training and hypnosis - and founder of the Doddle hypnosis app. We're covering topics like: Why our brains worry Whether worry is ever productive Some of Emili…

How much time do you spend focusing on how other people should change or behave differently? If it's quite a lot... you're not alone! Our brains love to focus on how other people aren't doing it 'right' and how if they'd just change, life could be so much easier. But in today's episode, I'm going to be talking about turning that focus inward. And f…

Do you feel a looming pressure to 'get your shit together' by a certain age? Maybe it's a pressure to find a romantic partner... Buy a house... Get married... Have a child... Do you often compare yourself to other people? Like your brain is cataloguing all their milestones, just to tell you how far behind you are? In today's episode - I have a conv…

Do you find yourself feeling anxious when your partner isn't responding to you? Or does your partner like to take some space after an argument - and when they do, you feel panicky and unable to calm down until they've returned? If so - this episode is for YOU! I'm covering: Why we struggle to feel safe when our partners are distant or taking space …

Do you ever fear that challenging your thoughts about other people's behaviour means you're gaslighting yourself? Do you want to make sure you're using these tools in a way that empowers you and doesn't keep you stuck in relationships that aren't truly what you want? Then this episode is for YOU! I'm discussing: The reason why we challenge our thin…

Do you often find yourself feeling responsible for the way other people feel? Feeling guilty if they're mad at you? Or changing your behaviour to try and manage other people's emotions? Do you hear me say that other people don't create our feelings... but find that hard to grasp when it comes to your actions influencing other people's emotions? If …

Today I’m sharing a blast from the past - in the form of one of the first podcast episodes I ever recorded. Do you struggle with trusting your partner? Are you constantly questioning... but WHAT IF they are going to cheat or leave me one day? How can I trust them!! Then this episode is for you. We're going to uncover what trust actually is and why …

Our unmanaged minds can create so much unnecessary pain and drama in our relationships. If you often feel rejected and hurt in your relationships - then this episode is for YOU. I'm offering you 5 questions to help you take back control of your fearful brain and feel empowered - regardless of what the other person is doing. Ready? LISTEN NOW. Menti…

When we're constantly spiralling in 'What if...' thoughts... - What if they break up with me? - What if they're mad at me? - What if they're lying to me? - What if they leave me? ... it's because of how we're subconsciously answering those questions. In today's episode, I'm talking about: Why rejection seems so terrifying What we're actually afraid…

Do you tend to take things personally? Always interpreting things your partner or friends do as a rejection and then feeling miserable? Do you anxiously worry about the future of your relationships? Spiraling in scary 'What if...' thoughts? Do you avoid conflict? So afraid of losing people from your life for good? If so - you likely have a fear of …

Do you struggle feeling confident? And often find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and filled with self-doubt? Did you know that, despite what a lot of us think, confidence isn't actually something you're just born with? And that you can actually create MORE confidence by managing the way you think? In today's episode, I'm talking about: Where c…

When you look in the mirror, are you quick to berate yourself with criticism? Mentally noting all the ways you need to change or 'fix' something about how you look in order to be 'good enough'? When you look at pictures of yourself - do you instantly hone in on what's 'wrong' and beat yourself up? With my wedding coming up, I have had a similar exp…

There's a lot of talk in the online space about needs and the importance of finding partners that meet our needs. But how do we actually go about asking for what we want? In this episode, I'm discussing: What do we really mean by 'need'? Why we often don't just ask for what we want Why need entitlement causes issues in relationships How to see need…

Do you often avoid having the harder conversations with loved ones? Not really being truly honest about how you feel and sweeping things under the rug to avoid conflict? Or maybe you do bring up issues, but you do it in a way that doesn't tend to result in connection... Then this episode is for YOU! I'm going to talk you through some key steps for …

Do you ever find yourself obsessing over and trying to decipher how much someone else likes you? Whether your partner loves you as much as you love them... Or whether your friends feel as close to you as you do to them... If so - this episode is for YOU! We're going to talk about: Why answering the question isn't cut and dry Why we're so obsessed w…

Do you find yourself being pretty critical of the people in your life? Your partner, your friends, your family members... Feeling frustrated and negative about the ways they show up or the things they do / don't do? Our brains' habit of criticizing can cause so much unnecessary disconnection in our relationships. Tune into this episode to find out …

In this episode, I chat with the lovely Sarah Siegert - Expat Friendship Coach, on all things FRIENDSHIP. We talk about: The manuals and expectations we have of our friends Friendship breakups When friendships change due to life circumstances Making new friends as an adult Why it's really all about our thoughts about ourselves Mentioned in this epi…

Whether you're in a long distance relationship or not - there will be something in this episode for you! We're going to cover: Emotional permanence, and how some of us struggle to believe our partners still care about us when they’re not physically with us Compromise and deciding how a long distance relationship will look Managing your anxious brai…

In this week's episode, I'm talking about how our upbringing, society, and external influencers can shape and determine the way we think about ourselves, love, and relationships. Do you automatically think being single in your 30s is a bad thing? Do you feel a bit shocked when you hear someone doesn't want kids? Do you find yourself behaving in way…

Do you try to use the tools and concepts I teach to manage your mind - but sometimes struggle to actually feel better? Do you struggle to understand why something is bothering you and feel like you're skirting around the root of the issue? Or often just have NO idea what you're thinking and where to even begin with thought work? Thought work is the…

Are you often feeling disappointed, hurt, and rejected in your relationships? And like the people in your life just don't make you feel loved and important? You may be falling victim to the 'They don't care' trap... Which is a pattern I see a lot of clients getting stuck in. In this episode, find out: What the 'They don't care' trap is Why we end u…

Do you find yourself often doing what others want you to do, without giving much thought to your own preferences and desires? Do you tend to make decisions on what's more likely to be approved of, consciously or subconsciously trying to avoid the risk of people being mad at you? If so - you're probably already familiar with the term 'People pleaser…

Do you have some issues in your relationship where household chores are concerned? Do you just WISH you could get them to do their washing up faster... Put a load of laundry on sooner... Throw round a duster for once in their life?! Living with another human being with a totally different brain than you is no joke. But in this episode, we're going …

Do you find yourself being pretty hard on you? Do you have a negative voice in your head, that's constantly ready to criticize you and tell you you're doing it wrong? And that compares you to other people? Telling you you're always falling short? In today's episode, I'm talking about how self-acceptance will change your life - including: What self-…

Do you want to open up to your partner about what you're going through but don't really know how? Whenever you discuss your anxiety, does it tend to end in a huge argument? Then this episode is for YOU. Mentioned in this episode: Processing Emotions Meditation Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat SheetRebecca Ore által

Do you feel overly impacted by other people's bad moods? Like if your partner is grumpy after work - YOU automatically feel annoyed or irritated? Or if your friend is being a little short with you - YOU automatically feel anxious? If so - this episode is for you! I'm going to teach you why other people's moods are never what's actually determining …

Do you find yourself feel resentful in your relationships? Feeling like you need other people to change so that YOU can feel better? If so - you need to listen to this episode! Mentioned in the episode: MYRMD - Group coaching details MYRMD - SIGN UP NOW Email - Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.comRebecca Ore által

Do you find yourself worrying about what your partner might do on a night out? Or getting paranoid and anxious about their new co-worker? Or ruminating about what if they cheat with that old family friend of theirs? Constantly being triggered and worrying about situations that could lead to them cheating on you or leaving you? In today's episode - …

In today's episode - listen to me chat with dating expert, Talia Koren - host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, about all things dating & mind drama! We cover a range of juicy topics, including: How to enjoy dating Being in a rush to meet someone Rejection Apps vs meeting people in real life Outdated dating rules And so much more! Mentioned in t…

Are you terrified of your partner cheating on you or leaving you... because you're convinced you could NEVER be happy with someone else? Does your brain tell you the dating pool is too small? Or you'd be too old to find someone else? Or that no one would EVER be as good as your partner? These scarcity beliefs fuel so much anxiety in our relationshi…

We're often told we need to validate ourselves - and not rely on our partners or friends to validate us. But.... how do we actually do that? In this episode I'm talking your through 4 simple steps for validating yourself in any situation - so that you can stop relying on other people to say the right things in order for you to feel good. Ready? Men…